It is funny isn't it ? Our mind . Here I was trying to study some important chapter for my certification exam and my mind was asking me questions. Haven't you been out of commission from your writing for over a month now? What is it , have you run out of ideas ? It is so typical ! Typical of you ! You just can't focus on one thing can you ? One day it is painting , the other day writing and yes how can I forget the infamous Guitar phase?
These questions continued for quite a while and then I brushed them off . I concentrated on the task at hand , finished a chapter from my brand new Management Guide and promised myself that next morning I will work on my new post. I keep my promises - Always .
I went to wave good bye to a friend recently. She and I became friends somehow in a short time span. I liked her company (I hardly like people to tell you the truth ). Then the day arrived , she had decided to take on a new career opportunity and bade good bye to this wonderful city.
That day I got thinking about Good byes. We meet so many people everyday And it so happens that one day or the other , we end up saying good bye to some of them. This happens so much so that sometimes we forget how important it is to say these two words - Good Bye...
I learnt the importance of Good byes from my father. His job makes him travel to a lot of places and as a result he is away most of the time.The incidence happened when I was going away from home for the first time to start my life as an independent girl.I got the job while I was still in college and after completion of my college degree I was supposed to join the firm. The day arrived and I packed my bags excitedly. I was very happy to be on my own. I had a train ticket and the journey was one night. My father was on tour at that time too. The station he was posted at that time happened to be on the way of my journey. The train didn't stop at that station but he told me that he would come there to send me off. The train started at about 2 in the afternoon and my father told me that he expects the train to arrive at 8 in the evening at the town he was stationed. It is very common for Indian rails to be delayed and my train was not an exception. It was around 9 p.m. when the station arrived . The train slowed down but didn't stop. I looked out the window and saw my father frantically searching for me. I shouted loudly and he looked my way. He frantically started waving his hands , I could see that his eyes lit up.He was so happy to see me , to just stand there and mutter Good bye while the train kept on gaining momentum.All my life , I will not forget that moment.
I never understood till that day why it is important to accompany someone to the airport ,to the bus stand or to the railway station. It is because the image stays with you forever.
The experience with my father is tattooed in my memory. But there are some experiences in our life , we struggle to forget. It so happened that someone very close to me decided to leave. I understand leaving, but isn't it your responsibility to inform your loved ones that you have decided to take off. I have lost all respect for the person in question, but at the same time learnt the importance of closure.Yes , it would have been painful to stand there and watch him go , but not as painful as wondering every single day about his reason for leaving without a formal Good bye. Somehow this incidence reminded of one of the Seinfeld episodes. There was a scene where Jerry and Elaine argue about the opposite of Good bye. Elaine argues that the opposite is Bad Bye , while Jerry stresses that Bad Bye is still Good Bye. Do you realize the depth of his observation? It doesn't matter how bad things got, or how hard it is to say Good Bye as it sounds like a Bad Bye, you owe it to the person to formally know that it is time to call quits and of course - Good Luck and Good Bye......
That is why it is customary in most cultures to call all the near and dear ones when a person passes away into the next realm.It is important to bid Farewell and feel sorrow for a while- it helps you to move on ,till the next GOOD BYE.....
These questions continued for quite a while and then I brushed them off . I concentrated on the task at hand , finished a chapter from my brand new Management Guide and promised myself that next morning I will work on my new post. I keep my promises - Always .
I went to wave good bye to a friend recently. She and I became friends somehow in a short time span. I liked her company (I hardly like people to tell you the truth ). Then the day arrived , she had decided to take on a new career opportunity and bade good bye to this wonderful city.
That day I got thinking about Good byes. We meet so many people everyday And it so happens that one day or the other , we end up saying good bye to some of them. This happens so much so that sometimes we forget how important it is to say these two words - Good Bye...
I learnt the importance of Good byes from my father. His job makes him travel to a lot of places and as a result he is away most of the time.The incidence happened when I was going away from home for the first time to start my life as an independent girl.I got the job while I was still in college and after completion of my college degree I was supposed to join the firm. The day arrived and I packed my bags excitedly. I was very happy to be on my own. I had a train ticket and the journey was one night. My father was on tour at that time too. The station he was posted at that time happened to be on the way of my journey. The train didn't stop at that station but he told me that he would come there to send me off. The train started at about 2 in the afternoon and my father told me that he expects the train to arrive at 8 in the evening at the town he was stationed. It is very common for Indian rails to be delayed and my train was not an exception. It was around 9 p.m. when the station arrived . The train slowed down but didn't stop. I looked out the window and saw my father frantically searching for me. I shouted loudly and he looked my way. He frantically started waving his hands , I could see that his eyes lit up.He was so happy to see me , to just stand there and mutter Good bye while the train kept on gaining momentum.All my life , I will not forget that moment.
I never understood till that day why it is important to accompany someone to the airport ,to the bus stand or to the railway station. It is because the image stays with you forever.
The experience with my father is tattooed in my memory. But there are some experiences in our life , we struggle to forget. It so happened that someone very close to me decided to leave. I understand leaving, but isn't it your responsibility to inform your loved ones that you have decided to take off. I have lost all respect for the person in question, but at the same time learnt the importance of closure.Yes , it would have been painful to stand there and watch him go , but not as painful as wondering every single day about his reason for leaving without a formal Good bye. Somehow this incidence reminded of one of the Seinfeld episodes. There was a scene where Jerry and Elaine argue about the opposite of Good bye. Elaine argues that the opposite is Bad Bye , while Jerry stresses that Bad Bye is still Good Bye. Do you realize the depth of his observation? It doesn't matter how bad things got, or how hard it is to say Good Bye as it sounds like a Bad Bye, you owe it to the person to formally know that it is time to call quits and of course - Good Luck and Good Bye......
That is why it is customary in most cultures to call all the near and dear ones when a person passes away into the next realm.It is important to bid Farewell and feel sorrow for a while- it helps you to move on ,till the next GOOD BYE.....
